My wedding celebration and reception was this past weekend. It was a day that Francisco and I will remember for as long as we both shall live. It’s a day when as many loved ones as possible, on both sides of our families, were in one place at one time. We got to share in worship, dinner, and dancing with our favorite people. We even got to go on vacation after it was over. However, in as many ways as it was joyful, exciting, fun, and super out of the ordinary of my normal life, it was also a lot of other things.
First of those other things, it was expensive. Very expensive. Like, there’s-a-reason-we-do-this-once expensive (ha!). Secondly, it was super out of the ordinary of my life — which although also on the “good” list, it means that there was a lot of unpredictability and anxiety over the many working parts of the day. Thirdly, I’m not a fan of being the center of attention, so twelve hours of that was truly a one-time deal. Here’s why we didn’t lose it:
Paul writes in Philippians, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”
In the midst of the planning and the questions and the payments and the people we missed, we were choosing to think (and to be reminded) about the beautiful things. Walking down the aisle together. Saying our vows out loud. Our first dance. Dancing with my dad. Francisco dancing with my mom (I’m crying). The marriage we will continue to build and the best friend that I have for the rest of my life. The things we will do together that we couldn’t have done separately. The family that we are together.
These are the things that helped us make it through. Paul himself knew lots of difficult seasons in his life, yet he knew to redirect back to the Word of God, and the gift that is peace–even when it isn’t logical. It’s one of the best gifts in wedding season, and for any of the other Big Days and seasons of our lives. My prayer for us is that we continue to ask for His peace and think on the good things in those times. Amen!